March 25, 2009

Wedding Etiquette: Bridal Showers

To continue with our wedding etiquette series, here are a few of the most frequently asked questions regarding bridal showers:

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Who should host my bridal shower?

Usually friends of the couple, bridesmaids, or family including aunts and cousins would be the people to host your bridal shower. The couple should never host a shower in their own honor. Traditionally, it was even frowned upon when close relatives of the bride and groom, such as siblings, parents or grandparents would host the shower. But over the past few years, this has also changed. It is becoming socially acceptable for family to host a shower in honor of close relatives.

We are making the guest list for the bridal shower. Do I have to invite everyone who is attending the shower to the wedding as well?

Absolutely. If you invite friends and family to attend a shower, and hence, ask them to shower you with gifts, it is only common courtesy to also invite them to be a part in your big day. If you were to invite someone to your shower, and not to the actual wedding, they might feel that you were only trying to get extra gifts. The only exception to this would be if your friends at work hosted you a surprise shower. Then, you are not obligated to invite the guests to your wedding.

When signing thank you cards for the gifts I received at my bridal shower, should I just write my name, or my fiancĂ©’s, too?

Though showers are usually hosted for the bride, your guests purchased their gifts with both you and your fiancé in mind. Hence, it is best to sign your thank you notes with both of your names.

How do we list the names of the hosts on an invitation if there are multiple hosts involved in the planning of a bridal shower?

The best way to list the hosts’ names on an invitation is to order them alphabetically. If one person is contributing more financially to a shower, that person's name should appear first.